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General trans community.
Rules:
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Follow all blahaj.zone rules
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
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Yep, I'm exactly the same way: I feel I'm too ugly to bother with makeup, I'm introverted, I'm not diagnosed but probably autistic.
Those are sorta mental hurdles to overcome, though - developing that skill so that the makeup you manage to put on is beautifying and feminizing is still worth it. It doesn't really matter how ugly you are, using makeup the right way will help. (If anything the logic flows the other way, the uglier you are, the more makeup is necessary and helpful; I certainly used makeup a lot more earlier in my transition, and less later in my transition.)
In early transition, makeup was an essential lifeline and a way to survive, and good makeup was a difference between passing or not. Now that I'm viewed as female whether I wear makeup or not, I just don't have to do as much.
To get out of your rut, if you feel motivated to, I would lean on your community more - go to trans support groups and LGBT+ events, go to pride parades, etc. and make friends. Find a femme and see if she will teach you how to do makeup. Let femmes put makeup on you. Then as you're learning from those experiences, start watching makeup tutorials and trying out the suggestions you find - particularly geared towards trans women and feminizing the face.
Once your skills are good enough, the makeup will be self-justifying, you won't have all these questions about why to bother - because you'll know why, because the makeup makes you look pretty, more like a woman, etc.
Problem is that make up washes off. I have learned how to alter how my face appears etc. but in the end of the day, I know what I'll see in the mirror - which would also be what another person would see and have to accept. I'm terrified of the idea of making myself look nice with various tricks and then be a disappointment.