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Have you experienced a drop in customer service after socially transitioning? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 6 months ago by marcela@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asktransgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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I have read similar complaints about some other types of situations. I think it is informative because with trans people there is the Before/After factor. So have you noticed a drop in customer service that you can attribute to being perceived as transgender?

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[–] marcela@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 6 months ago

I am many years in and I have had on and offs with voice training. The benefits of voice training are immense. On the other hand, voice can be the only clue after several months on HRT, but it has a big effect.

I know that people are more nice to (perceived) women, I seem to have a blind spot about that. I mostly focus on all the little things can go wrong if your voice lets on you are trans, in waiting times, wrong orders, inappropriate amounts of chili, lower quality food, as well as gossiping, outing you, staring from waiters/staff etc.

Apart from staring I used to write off most of this stuff. I only registered that many times I realized consistent misgendering was correlated with selling me faulty products or food gone bad or heavily worn out banknotes. My theory was that there is a "second class customer" class, and being trans puts you into it.

But then I read a thread on Reddit about mixed-race couples and I realized that some of the items in the first list are oddly familiar, and started thinking if people do them to trans people out of aggressiveness.