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Where is the best place to go to engage in polite conversation with random strangers? (lemmy.world)

submitted 7 months ago by N0t_5ure@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've been working on myself after coming out of a toxic long-term relationship that destroyed my social network, and am quite rusty at engaging with people I don't know. I'm also an introvert by nature, but am capable of overruling that nature and engaging with people when I consciously try. At this point I feel like I just need to boost my experience and restore a level of comfort in engaging with people I don't know. When I go out (by myself), I tend to go see live music, which is fun but generally not conducive to conversation. Ultimately I'd like to restore my rusty social skills for the purposes of interacting with members of the opposite sex, but at this point I just need to work on engaging with people in general. WHat say you, people of Lemmy?

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[–] Brahvim@lemmy.kde.social 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

~~Uhm... Signal? Matrix?~~
I... I have a lot of friends IRL. I'm... I'm very fun at parties... B-believe me, bro!!!

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I didn't even know an app called Matrix existed until now, lol. But yeah, must I do it or is there one already? I'm not lonely but my yapping knows no bounds, I'm sure it could have moderate success. And the 3 ladies on Lemmy could provide enough practice for men not to be afraid of talking to women, lol. 👍

[–] Brahvim@lemmy.kde.social 2 points 7 months ago

I use Fluffychat. Element is more up-to-date with features, but I think I like the simplicity and feel of Fluffy. Both are available via F-droid at least. There probably are other methods. And yes, both have Linux desktop and developer-hosted web-apps.

FYI Matrix is not an app, but a protocol. Like how you can use different clients to connect to Lemm-Lemm, you can use different apps for Matrix, and not every app has all features. Heck, even the sync authentication systems (that allow you to export your messages to different devices) are different!

But then there's the fact that you have manage your decryption keys on your own!

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I think Signal is better for video calls.

It's a bit less decentralized, but it's a lot simpler. A popular thing about Signal is that Edward Snowden talked about a Signal update in a congratulative tone of voice.