Dating

Seeing this a lot on profiles. No idea what it means? It's suppose to mean they are more laid back or something? Or is it like they are anti-reservation?

I just sit wherever is free at a restaurant, I don't really see any distinction between sitting at a bar, a high top, or a table.

@dating Hi guys

I’ve been through way too many dating apps and honestly all of them are just subscription traps dressed up as “love.” Swipe, pay, repeat. Dead profiles, Bots, frauds and a bad match making system. After a while I pretty much gave up. Then I randomly stumbled into a discord server named "Heartstrings" found about it from an article on medium, and it surprised me in the best way. I really admire and respect the hard work those people do. It’s a small, chill server so you’re not drowning in competition or noise. They even do VC verification which keeps bots, minors, and OF scammers out, so the place actually feels safe. The community is super welcoming, everything stays SFW, and the mods are quick to shut down drama before it spreads. There’s even an AI matchmaking bot and some fun events that keep things interesting. I found a good match a month ago, things are going great so far, she is really a nice girl our profiles show that we have 78% compatibility, just the love of metal rock music is more than a 100% for me 😄. The crazy part is the server is still really new, the owner is developing and working on the bot everyday, also if the server becomes more successful they have a plan to make a horror game for couples!! so this is basically just the beginning. If it’s already this good now, I’m honestly excited to see what it becomes later!! :)

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Is it wrong to love your children only because they’re the children of someone you love? For example, if you had kids with an ex-wife you didn’t love as much, and you feel like you wouldn’t love those children the same way because you don’t love your ex—would that be wrong?

A lot of people say influencer relationships are not necessarily "fake", but in reality, they aren't happy relationships either; they're toxic, they don't really "love" each other, and a lot of them even have kids.

For example, there is an influencer couple; they are in their 30s, have been dating for 9 years, and have a kid together. The guy is a model, and the girlfriend is or was an actress; they post about each other a lot.

but recently it came out the guy (I'm blanking on their names) is a HUGE Christian right-wing Trump supporter followed Charlie Kirk, red pill tradwives content, Andrew Tate type, etc.

Some people have pointed out that his partner doesn't really act anymore and only does hobbies he's into, and he doesn't do anything she likes.

I don't know how authentic their relationship is, but on that topic

How much of it do you believe is really true?

I met a girl on hinge, we hit it off, the conversation was great and we were both really into it. We planned a first date. The date honestly felt magical. It was as if time flew by. We then plan a second date, we meet. At the end of the night we kissed. We continue to text, I plan a third date for this weekend. She agrees, were supposed to go to a light festival.

The next day she sends me a text where she says she's not interested in anything romantic and if I'm ok with that, she'll still go on the date with me. I text her back that it's a bit weird for me to suddenly switch so I want to cancel the date because I'd need some time if we were to be just friends. She then tells me that's she's there if I ever want to talk.

Honestly, I'll probably never reach out again but I do wonder if I did the right thing.

So I’m going on a fifth date with a girl I met. We’ve been talking for about 1.5 months now. I asked her if she was free Thursday night but she said no but is free Saturday night. We plan to go to a group event that is valentine theme. This is my first time ever having a date too 🫣

Anyway my questions are:

1. So she got me a lovely gift on our fourth date because she loves gifting. I know she loves flowers especially tulips because they make her days better. Now I know tulips are “more serious” but would it be a bad idea to get her some (especially since it’s Valentine’s Day and the group event she’ll also get to take the item we make home) I don’t want her to get the wrong message with the tulips

2. Along with texting and dating for a bout a month we’ve also had phone calls….ik it’s the fifth date but with all this time frame a good time just to inquire about where we stand? Like I’m fine if she wants to take it slow but I want to show her I’m interested in something more — Not sure if it helps but during 4th date is when she got comfortable with hugging and me picking her up

3. After dropping her off after hugging can I mention how much fun I had and would like to see her again and say something like are you free Wednesday night? Or wait a few hours

Third date went great (thanks to everyones advice in my previous post) however I offered a fourth date to a jazz bar Saturday however forgot valentines day can make reservations hard (didn't know the palce did reservations). And I told her I was thinking that place before i found out about reservations. Or try finding another live music place since she loves all live music not just jazz.

Should I resort to something like a paintwork shop (even though the theme is valentines and we aren't a couple yet)?

I'm still learning the ropes here and any advice would be very helpfu.

This is what the least subtle painting I could find would be

I’ve [28M] never been pass the first date, but some how made it to date three. I really want this to go well

I offered to pick her up and she said yes but I’m not sure what the etiquette is

When I pick her up do I open car door from inside, let her open it, or get out when I see her (give her a hug too? Not sure cuz first date we shook hands and second held hands for a little bit but didn’t hug or shake hands after that date) then open the door?

What about when I drop her off? Do I walk up with her and possibly give a hug? And can instead of that wait within 24 hours thing if things went well can I tell her I’d like to see her again then?

Also would new balance gym shoes be fine for an art gallery date? What about jeans and a flannel shirt?

include passenger princess and other various of the term.

Never heard this stuff like 3-4 years ago but now it's everywhere on social media and 1/3 of profiles on dating apps. Do you think it will last much longer?

I always tell my dad, "Wealthy people tend to date wealthy people; a girl from a multi-millionaire family isn't going to date the pizza guy." My dad says, "No, that's not true. What if she really likes him, or what if NO guy from an upper-class family wants to date her?" And another really stupid line of reasoning is, "Why would a guy from an upper-class family care about a woman's background if he's the one who wants to 'take care' and 'provide' for her?"

This is really stupid for a few reasons. Let's start with the most stupid argument.

"What if no guy/girl from an upper-class family wants to date her/him?"

Again, this is stupid and nonsensical; it would be like telling a middle-class person, "What if literally NO middle-class person wants to date you?" This is stupid because it's unrealistic.

People tend to socialise with who they are around and date who they socialise with…

Middle-class people will mostly likely date someone from a middle-class background because that's who they socialise with.

In that same vein, people from wealthy families move in higher social circles. I doubt they could have the opportunity to meet people from a different social class anymore without getting out of their comfort zone.

Very rich people live in a different bubble.

They go to different schools, different restaurants, live in different areas... They don't use the same transport, buy in the same stores or sleep in the same hotels as the lower and middle classes. They also have their own social clubs and their own universities, which are exclusive.

They only meet lower-class people in a professional setting: as servers, employees or workers. But rarely in a social setting.

The idea that the boy from the slums marries the princess or the king of the country comes into a coffee shop and marries the barista – that's not really how it works.

People usually gravitate and socialise towards the thing that they are

Am I saying it's impossible for some 22-year-old guy who works at a coffee shop to date some 32-year-old millionaire influencer? No, it's not "impossible", and I'm sure it has happened before, BUT IT'S RARE! Or if this 32-year-old influencer came from a modest background and doesn't really care about money like that, but even then If she did date some middle-class 22-year-old, that 22-year-old would probably be very goal-orientated and hard-working and be in college getting a degree to get a job that pays a lot of money. Basically he would have to have big goals and aspirations.

Even if you are a super wealthy upper-class person who came from a poor or middle-class background, your lifestyle for the most part changes, and the people in your social circle will also be wealthy.

It's not just average-looking rich guys with beautiful women. There are average-looking guys with 10/10-looking women. I once even saw an average 21-year-old guy with a 28-year-old who looks like a supermodel. How is this possible? Are these women just insecure, and that's why they date men who are below them?

I once saw a 27-year-old woman (who has a successful job) dating a 21-year-old who's in college and has a job, and I wonder why. Why would a successful person date someone unsuccessful? You could argue that she likes that he's goal-oriented, but that's bullshit.

There is this beautiful woman at my local Walmart who recognises me; she always smiles and waves at me. She usually works at the service desk and, from across the room, said, “How are you doing?” Now I’m aware retail workers are nice to customers because they have to be, but I still decided to shoot my shot. While no one was at the service area, she said, “Do you need help with something?” I was nervous and asked her name. She told me. I asked her how her Christmas was, and she said, “Good.” It was clear she didn’t want to have a conversation, so I just said, “I just wanted to say hi,” and left.

I’m aware of body language, and I take rejection well, so I just left.

But yeah, I’ve never asked out or dated a retail worker. I’m aware that just because someone is friendly with you doesn’t mean they like you, but I still wanted to shoot my shot.

Note to self: never ask out or date a retail worker.

Ich habe letztes Jahr eine Single Frauen Ukraine kennengelernt, nachdem ich mich auf einer Webseite mit solchen Profilen angemeldet hatte. Wir haben zuerst monatelang geschrieben, bevor wir uns persönlich getroffen haben. Das Treffen war erstaunlich angenehm, weil wir uns vorher schon gut kannten. Was mich beeindruckt hat: diese Ernsthaftigkeit und gegenseitige Wertschätzung, ohne Spielchen. Heute sind wir ein Paar. Ich denke, solche Kontakte funktionieren, wenn man Geduld und Respekt mitbringt – es ist keine schnelle Sache, sondern wächst langsam.

Hello all!

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