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[–] panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 65 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

You gotta do a little something, it helps.

Even if that’s making the bed or tidying up. It feels better.

[–] Karjalan@lemmy.world 27 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Unless you have a broken reward system and it doesn't...

But what does often help, and I find myself having the same struggle, is just having some food, water and literally touching grass.

A bit of nutrients, sun and nature is surprisingly helpful when you're in this state.

[–] arbitur95@lemmy.world 3 points 4 weeks ago

You can “fix” your reward system. You just gotta internalize and accept that you aren’t able to achieve what others do or ever you might Want to do. Then you’ll start noticing the little things you do and grow some self esteem. You should only compare yourself from yesterday, never others or what you maybe once was able to do way back or what you hope to be able in the future.

[–] untorquer@quokk.au 13 points 4 weeks ago

Something somatic like going for a walk too.

[–] viertesauge@feddit.org 58 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

I want to do X, but i should also do Y while X is running to make better use of my time, but in order to do Y i have to do Z, but i dont want to do Z because it makes me anxious. Oh and also Z would be easier if X was already done.

[–] needanke@feddit.org 25 points 4 weeks ago

3 days later: damm, I should have done X by yesterday, but also F needs to be done every two days, and I have not done that in a week, so maybe I should start there. But that would be so much better if Y was done already. Maybe I'll just do a tiny bit of H (which is not urgent at all) and call it a day (it is 2 am).

[–] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 12 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

So you're in software then

[–] viertesauge@feddit.org 33 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

no, im in distress actually

[–] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 7 points 4 weeks ago

That's what I said though

[–] button_masher@lemmy.ml 9 points 4 weeks ago

While not fully relevant, reminded me of this gag.

What does it look like I'm doing

[–] heavy@sh.itjust.works 34 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

You cannot rest when enemies are nearby.

[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 4 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

But the door is closed and I just found sheep today to get enough wool to craft a bed 😭 let me sleep through the night!

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 4 points 4 weeks ago

The enemy next door getting the message "You can not rest while heroes are nearby."

[–] HappyCatLuvs_U@lemmy.world 31 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

Undiagnosed ADHD or autism or both, usually.

[–] katiecakes@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 4 weeks ago

Or trauma, depression, etc, etc. We should really stop diagnosing people and just suggest mental health support from a professional when something is wrong.

Sincerely - a person with cptsd, who has been constantly misdiagnosed with autism and adhd by the community (I have neither, and it was harmful to think that was my problem).

[–] untorquer@quokk.au 15 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] Plum@lemmy.world 10 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] untorquer@quokk.au 3 points 4 weeks ago

Could be, likely even.

[–] bigb@lemmy.world 4 points 4 weeks ago

I was diagnosed with ADHD at 40. It has made all the difference to finally treat it with medication.

[–] ChicoSuave@lemmy.world 3 points 4 weeks ago

Diagnosed but unmedicated because the system is rigged against many of us.

[–] chuckleslord@lemmy.world 30 points 4 weeks ago

You don't have enough spoons to carry over to the next day. Do some high visibility, low effort chores until you get enough energy to do bigger ones. Go for a walk. Get out of the place you spend all your time for a couple of hours during the time you'd normally spend there.

If that doesn't help, you might need assistance beyond what internet strangers can provide. Talk to people around you about you struggles, maybe consider therapy if that's a possibility.

[–] needanke@feddit.org 29 points 4 weeks ago
[–] CombatWombat@feddit.online 26 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Are you overwhelmed? Or are you properly whelmed by things that are overhappening?

[–] tiotok@lemmy.world 1 points 4 weeks ago

My new favorite way of describing my life.

[–] Impractical_Island@lemmy.world 22 points 4 weeks ago

Unresolved childhood trauma. The underlying strategy to heal yourself from this is to consciously step far outside your comfort zone from time to time so that you can perceive yourself more accurately to see what inside you is draining you whilst simultaneously recondition yourself out of these maladaptive patterns. The world traumatizes us all. We don't need to be caught in a warzone to be inflicted with just the right wound to cripple us in the most debilitating ways. The solution is to grow. Challenge yourself with a big mission that casts you out of what is familiar to find yourself better than you ever were before. And there is a smart way to do this, a lazy way to do this, and a reckless way of doing this. Balance is key.

[–] Malica@lemmy.zip 12 points 4 weeks ago
[–] bitteroldcoot@piefed.social 7 points 4 weeks ago

It's the end times. Your'e not supposed to feel good about it.

Now strap this to your belt, and help me board up all the windows......

https://www.coldsteel.com/gladius-machete/

[–] notsure@fedia.io 6 points 4 weeks ago

Damn you. Just damn you. /s love your content

[–] Prox@lemmy.world 4 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

You're overwhelmed because you don't do anything.

The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.

Progress > perfection

[–] joulethief@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 4 weeks ago

Tell that to my ADHD ass. Task paralysis is a real thing. Life has gotten a lot better since I'm on medication, the years before that though were spent just like in this picture

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Not doing anything drains you in the same way not lifting anything makes you feel weak all the time. Go slow, add to your capacity, and get rest when done. High stress nothing is the most exhausting thing