Self Improvement

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A community which focusses on improving yourself. This can be in many different ways - from improving physical health or appearance, to improving mental health, creating better habits, overcoming addictions, etc.

While material circumstances beyond our control do govern much of our daily lives, people do have agency and choices to make, whether that is as "simple" as disciplining yourself to not doomscroll, to as complex as recreating yourself to have many different hobbies and habits.

This is not a place where all we do is talk about improving "productivity" (in a workplace context) and similar terms and harmful lifestyles like "grindset". Self-improvement here is intended to make you a generally better and happier person, as well as a better communist, and any other roles you may have in your life.

Rules and guidelines:

  1. Posts should be about self-improvement. This is obviously a wide category, and can range from advice, to finding resources, to self-posts about needing to improve in a certain area, or how you have improved, and many other things.

  1. Use content warnings when discussing difficult subjects.

  1. Do not make medical decisions solely because of a discussion you have had with any person here (e.g. whether to take or not take medications; diagnoses; etc.) as we do not vet people. All medical problems should be discussed with a real-life medical professional.

  1. Do not post harmful advice here. If this is seen, then please report it and we shall remove it. If you are unsure about whether it's precisely harmful advice or not but feel uneasy about it, please report it anyway.

  1. Do not insult other users and their lifestyles or their habits (unless they ask, I suppose). This is a place for self-improvement. Critique and discussion about a course of action is encouraged over shit-flinging. Don't talk down to people.

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Hello comrades and welcome to the second improvement megathread of August! bonfire


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionThe Pioneer is an example to all children. We are preparing for the First Republic Congress of the Pioneers!

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Link to last week's post: https://hexbear.net/post/8870143

This one turned into a bit of a mini-essay as it didn't feel right to propose my tip without motivation. It also features some more personal reflections, and it's ok if you don't agree with all of them.

Skip to the last heading if you just want to see the tip

Attention under capitalism

Your attention does not belong to you. At least not in modern capitalist society. In a competitive market society, producers are impelled to betray all interpersonal boundaries in order, not only to convince you to buy, but to convince you to buy from them. The competitive aspect of capitalist commodity production necessitates perpetual disrespect of your autonomy and your ability to manage the ideas which occupy your mind in a given moment.

This famous painting, The Song of the Lark (1884) by Jules Breton, evokes feelings of awe and curiosity as a peasant girl stands in a field, transfixed listening to birdsong. It brings to my mind pleasant moments when I can flow according to my own rhythm, or when I pause to appreciate something in my surroundings. These moments are when I feel the most authentic, because they contain acts of spontaneous, unplanned intuition. No one instructs me to do it, nor could I have predicted it and scheduled it intentionally.

Focus is the conscious control of one's attention. There is nothing wrong with sharing ideas or learning from others. But are you in control of what comes in and out, and when these flows happen? or are you overwhelmed by the barrage of notions competing for your inner headspace?

Advertising

Advertisement is a straightforward example of a "notional intrusion" by which capitalist society entitles itself to disrupt your focus. Perhaps you are confronted by a large billboard: an image of a woman dressed in hiking gear, looking out on a valley with a slight, confident smile. Her hiking boot is displayed prominently forward. The caption reads, Go Anywhere. Now, instead of thinking about what to eat for dinner, your thoughts spiral. What if I can't afford those boots? Am I missing out? Could I be as cool as her? The psychology of consumerism is well-studied and practically obvious to those who experience it. Here, it is enough to note that the advertisement substitutes itself for whatever you had been thinking about prior to observing it.

The power of suggestion

The key concept I would like to emphasize is the power of suggestion. An advertisement does not merely inform about a product; it suggests a mental framing which shapes how you think and the decisions you will make.

A significant avenue for suggestion is your electronics, and particularly mobile devices like smartphones. As a rule, the poorer the user interface, the more reliance there is on "smart" features to guess what you intended to input. Auto-correct is a simple example of this, making up for the inadequacy of an on-screen keyboard. On the more advanced side are digital assistants, increasingly called AI agents as the technology leans more on machine learning to infer user intent. You might search "used books" into a Google search, and Google's algorithm interprets both the literal query and also what you ultimately might be looking for — so, it returns results for both bookstores and flea markets, assuming that you are interested in general bargain-hunting. At least, this is the naïve description that assumes no nefarious injection of sponsored or otherwise unrequested results. The reality is more grim, as we know, because sponsored results are ubiquitous on the web today, and even locally within the Windows operating system.

'Push' versus 'Pull' paradigms

Early forms of computing stand in stark contrast with the modern era of suggestive algorithms. For decades, one interacted with a computer through a keyboard connected to a terminal. Before the user asked the computer a question, she had to decide ahead of time the question and the form to present it to the computer. This required training and consultation of the computer's manual.

From these reflections there emerge two distinct paradigms of computing: the pull paradigm, in which the computer presents information only on request, and the push paradigm, in which the computer presents information eagerly, even without a request.

On the question of attention, the pull paradigm is clearly superior, as it respects the user's ability to form their own questions at their own pace. Control is almost entirely held by the user. Push paradigms, on the other hand, assume that the user is unable or unskilled enough to accomplish their tasks on their own; at this point, the computer decides to step in, injecting necessarily opinionated information into the user's session, ultimately taking away the user's control and forcing them to consider both their own ideas and those of the computer.

Tip #2: Make your devices follow the pull paradigm

Your task is to investigate the settings on your electronic devices which allow for suggestions or other mental intrusions, and to then turn off as many of those settings as possible.

  • Clear your home screen / desktop
    • This one may be confusing at first. The point is to change your interaction with your phone or computer. Instead of scanning through a gallery of programs, force yourself to manually search, by typing, the app you intend to open. This nearly eliminates the possibility of distractedly opening an app that you didn't set out to open when you turned on your device.
    • If done correctly, your home screen should be pretty much blank, save for a clock and maybe a simple weather display.
  • Turn off digital assistant suggestion features. This includes:
    • App suggestions in the app drawer or system search / spotlight
    • Suggested actions e.g. 'call this contact', 'drive to work', 'play album'
    • Suggested websites in your browser search bar
  • Turn off widgets that display live updates like news and social media feeds
  • Turn off notification badges (dots/indicators overlaid on app icons)
  • Turn off all 'urgent' notification features. If there is an option, make your notifications only appear in the notification panel. Notifications should never force their way into your screen through a banner. The idea is that you periodically check your notifications manually, and only when you are mentally prepared to do so.
  • Use an ad blocker
  • ... and anything else you think of, as it relates to your personal workflow.
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up-arrow I've used SAMHSA before to find a rehab, 2 times now and both times it helped me out greatly so I want to share this with the community for anyone who wants to make the plunge.

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@moonlake@hexbear.net's great commrequest to create this comm was here, and the improover thread that inspired it is here. Hopefully, we can make this space a place for comrades to talk about their efforts to improve oneself.

This community's purpose is to gather ways for us leftists to become more effective and self-disciplined, forging healthy habits and setting goals. It is undoubtably true that most problems that we experience are due to systemic issues. We do, however, possess some degree of individual agency that we can exert.

We explicitly reject the narratives of "grindset" and "increasing productivity" which are usually associated with "self improvement" among grifter circles, especially in the context of working for capitalists to earn a wage and giving them even more of your surplus value. If you're in a position to slack off at work and still receive a wage that can support you, then don't work any harder than necessary for those bougie motherfuckers. This is a community that is focussed on self-improvement in every other way, allowing us to become happier, healthier, and more knowledgable communists. I believe that we should, as much as possible and when it is safe to do so without being assaulted by chuds, be role models for communism - compassionate, caring, and hard-working (as said before, outside of the workplace). We should be, as much as possible, friendly and reliable to those around us - somebody other people go to when they need support or are confused about the world. After all:

As revolutionaries, we don't have the right to say we are tired of explaining. We must never stop explaining. We know that when the people understand, they cannot help but follow us.

While revolutionary scenarios in the imperial core are very rare right now, we are entering an incredibly tumultuous global situation in the coming years and decades as American quasi-hegemony is threatened. We must be prepared, and cultivate discipline and revolutionary optimism now, so that we can take advantage of all opportunities that come our way. As our comrades in Palestine and elsewhere are fighting imperialism on the front lines, spilling their blood for a better world, we must not fall into resignation and doomerism. We must not cede the concept of improving oneself and becoming a better person to right-wingers and self-help guru grifters.

We naturally have a lot of overlap with c/fitness and c/theory, as well as other communities. Again, this is self-improvement in virtually every way - whether you want to eat healthier (and ideally go im-vegan), improve fitness (whether that's to be big and muscular, or more thin and lithe), transition successfully via HRT and voice training, stopping doomscrolling on Twitter or Reddit so much in your spare time, stopping smoking/drinking/etc, learning a language - and a dozen other ways that you can improve yourself.

Comrades over at Unity Struggle Unity have put together a list recently on how to become a stronger comrade, including:

  1. Learning a new language, especially that of the largest minority in your country (such as Spanish in the US).
  2. Learn first aid and CPR, as well as how to administer and receive narcan.
  3. Meet your neighbours - either introduce yourself in person, or, if you're shy, write a polite note and leave a small gift. Obviously, sometimes your neighbours are hostile chuds and so shouldn't be engaged with if possible.
  4. Join or start a reading group. Note that @Vampire@hexbear.net and many others have been discussing getting these back on track.
  5. Know where your community resources are, if applicable - such as the closest food pantry, warming shelter, free clinic, libraries, etc.
  6. Brush up on how to protest safely, including from a legal perspective.
  7. Pay attention to local boycotts, as well as larger ones like BDS. Don't cross picket lines.
  8. If you have the time and energy, volunteering in your community is a good way to contribute and socialize with others in your community and build organizational and life skills.
  9. Read theory, and also the history of communist organizing.
  10. Take care of yourself. Eat as well as you can on your budget. Get enough sleep. Go outside, even if just for a walk around the block every day (remember to mask when needed!) Be social, if that helps you.
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Hello comrades and welcome to the first improvement megathread of August! bonfire


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your July?

+ Do you have some plans for August?

Poster captionBuild up a good physique, steel the will, to contribute strength to the realization of the Four Modernizations

锻炼身体, 锻炼意志, 为实现四个现代化贡献力量

Duanlian shenti, duanlian yizhi, wei shixian sige xiandaihua gongxian liliang

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Hello comrades and welcome to the fourth improvement megathread of July! bonfire


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

art source: PLA soldier in Fallout

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Hello comrades and welcome to the third improvement megathread of July! bonfire


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionBecome a red seedling - Go to the places where the motherland needs you most, strike root, blossom and bear fruit!

做一颗红色的种子 - 到祖国最需要的地方生根, 发芽, 开花, 结果!

Zuo yike hongsede zhongzi - Dao zuguo zui xuyaode difang shenggen faya, kaihua, jieguo!

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Hello comrades and welcome to the second improvement megathread of July! bonfire


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionStudy hard and every day you will improve

好好学习天天向上

Haohao xuexi, tiantian xiangshang

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the first improvement megathread of July! bonfire

I regret to inform you that the year is halfway done. But this means that there are 6 more months to make some progress!

Some discussion ideas:

+ How is your 2026 going so far?

+ What are your Ws and Ls?

+ What is your Main Goal for the second half of 2026?

Poster captionThe people of all nationalities warmly welcome the victorious convening of the Fifth National People's Congress

各族人民热烈欢庆第五届全国人民代表大会胜利召开

Gezu renmin relie huanqing diwujie quanguo renmin daibiao dahui shengli zhaokai

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the fourth improvement megathread of June! bonfire

Only two more days of June left, it's a good time to review the month and start thinking about goals for July.

Some discussion ideas:

- How was your June?

+ Do you have some plans for July?

Poster captionCelebrate the 50th birthday of the Chinese Communist Party with new victories

用新的胜利庆祝中国共产党诞生五十周年

Yong xinde shengli qingzhu Zhongguo gongchandang dansheng wushi zhounian

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Time is perhaps the most fundamental of all categories of capitalist reality. Time is the metric of concrete labor and is the root of all concepts deriving from value: price, profit, interest, wages, and so on. Time may be a physical thing, but our relationship with time is historically determined. Speed-up and time-saturation are intrinsic to life under capitalism.

There are many trite examples of this dynamic with time. Your boss wants you to work faster. You want to walk faster to get where you’re going. You sacrifice an hour of sleep to cram in one more episode before bed. You stop reading books. You skip a phone call with family because you are too busy.

The more life we pack in to 24 hours, the less we are able to focus on any given moment.

In order to reclaim your attention span, it is necessary to think seriously about what claims your attention, regardless of what social norms or capitalist marketing attempt to tell you is normal. You must be intentional and self-critical about your own routines, behaviors, and environment so that you can create a healthy space for yourself.

This is something I have been working on for myself for… idk, a few years, and I plan to gradually share what I’ve learned. I’ll do one tip at a time so as not to overwhelm.

Tip #1: Calm your device display

I mean the physical device hardware. Make it boring. It is designed to trigger your dopamine, so you have to hamstring those features on purpose:

  • Desaturate the colors. Nature does not produce the incredibly bright colors of an LED-based display. Your little monke brain is being melted. Both iOS and Android have accessibility settings to apply a monochrome filter to the display, which has the effect of toning down the color saturation. Goal: colors should look muted, similar to a color e-ink display.
  • Use the dimmest possible setting.
  • Reduce the frame rate as low as possible. No higher than 60 fps. Ideal is an e-reader refresh rate.
  • Use a simple solid-color wallpaper. Make it boring instead of eye-catching or emotionally stimulating (e.g. a family member)

Next time, I’ll talk about the “push philosophy” used by your devices and how you can push back.

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Hello comrades and welcome to the third improvement megathread of June! bonfire

Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionTo New Successes, Young Builders of Communism!

[Quote on poster]: "Meeting the sun and wind, in battle and in valiant labor, broadening [their] shoulders, forward the Komsomol goes forth!"

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the second improvement megathread of June!


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

spoilerPoster caption:

Border cavalry

边疆铁骑

Bianjiang tieqi

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the first improvement megathread of June! bonfire

Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionTake exercise for the construction of a great socialist motherland

为建设伟大的社会主义祖国而锻炼

Wei jianshe weida de shehui zhuyi zuguo er duanlian

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the fifth improvement megathread of May!

Today is the last day of May. It's time to review the month and set some intentions for June. bonfire


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your May?

+ Do you have some plans for June?

Good luck in June! comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the fourth improvement megathread of May! bonfire



Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster caption:Let the imperialists tremble before all the peoples of the world!

让帝国主义者在全世界人民的前面发抖吧!

Rang diguo zhuyizhe zai quan shijie renminde mianqian fadou ba!

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the third improvement megathread of May! bonfire


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionDedicate your youth to the motherland, create our bright and happy future!

把青春献給租国,创造我们美好幸福的未來!

Ba qingchun xian gei zuguo, chuangzao women meihao xingfu de weilai!

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the second improvement megathread of May! bonfire Today is Mother's Day.


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionGrowing up in happy times

在幸福时代成长

Zai xingfu shidai chengzhang

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the first improvement megathread of May! bonfire


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your April?

+ Do you have some plans for May?

Poster captionStudy heroes and show action. We must learn from the green pine tree on top of Mount Tai

学英雄见行动. 要学那泰山顶上一青松

Xue yingxiong jian xingdong. Yao xue na Taishan dingshang yi qingsong

Good luck in May! comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the fourth improvement megathread of April!

Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionA rivet, a bullet, all shoot at imperialism, revisionism, and reactionary forces

一颗铆钉一颗弹弹弹射向帝修反

Yike maoding yike dan dandan shexiang dixiufan

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the third improvement megathread of April! bonfire

Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionNever forget class suffering, hold the gun firmly in your hand

不忘阶级苦紧握手中枪

Bu wang jieji ku, jin wo shou zhong qiang

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the second improvement megathread of April! bonfire

Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionThe struggle of all the people in the world against American imperialism will be victorious!

全世界人民反对美帝国主义的斗争必胜!

Quan shijie renmin fandui Mei diguo zhuyide douzheng bisheng!

comintern

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Hello comrades and welcome to the first improvement megathread of April! bonfire

Some discussion ideas:

- How was your week?

+ Do you have some plans for next week?

Poster captionLove science from a young age

从小爱科学

Congxiao ai kexue

comrade-doggo

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Hello comrades and welcome to the fifth improvement megathread of March! It's a good time to review the progress from March and make some plans for April. bonfire


Some discussion ideas:

- How was your March?

+ Do you have some plans for April?

Good luck in April!

comrade-doggo

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For me Ive found replacement activities like painting to do instead when I’m tired and get back from work with no brain capacity left. And whenever I notice that my phone use habits are starting to become much too dominant I take a week to decouple. So I turn it off and leave it at home as much as possible to break my habits. This takes some mental energy so it’s only possible in periods where I have the energy to spend.

I also intently buy small phones because it makes them less attractive to use in my experience. It’s unfortunate that small phones are seemingly disappearing from the market.

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