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[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 months ago

I think the same. Thank you so much for your answers and your help! I appreciate it muchly <3

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 months ago

Yeah of course. I was just wondering if there was anything I could do to make that process easier I guess. I'm just trying to be a good friend.

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 months ago (2 children)

She's not FULLY socially transitioned. Like, with her friends she's herself, but with her family and in public, she's, how did she put it...."Just a little fae"? She still goes by her deadname with family and in public

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 months ago (2 children)

She WANTS to though. Like, a lot. She makes those "and this is what I would do with my boobs...IF I HAD THEM" jokes and aw I feel bad. My bio dad now mom was SUCH a fucking asshole before she transitioned and now she's just a different person. I mean my friend's not an asshole but I want her to come into herself like my mom did if that makes sense.

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Oh no :/ Yeah I already talked to her about that, I'm not sure what sub it was but I went and read one of their guides on it. She's open to it like I said, it's the social stuff that is stopping her. And trump cutting supplies when she's on them, which would be horrible, I understand that. My mom is trans too, so it's an issue close to my heart, and I'd really like to help somehow. Though I know it's ultimately just up to whenever she feels comfortable.

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 months ago (6 children)

Thank you so much! This helps actually. Yeah she's absolutely terrified of all the stuff trump is doing, shit I forgot to mention that. Like she's worried that if she starts it, then Trump does something to cut off it off when she's in the middle of it, it's gonna be even worse for her

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 0 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Yeah that's what I've been telling her too. She's 23 or so now, so she definitely knows what she wants. She's just really terrified of her hurting her dad. Not because he won't accept her or anything (she's been socially living as a woman for a long while now, just hasn't ever had the 'dad I'm trans' convo') but because she's afraid the community will lash out against her family. Which I don't think they will, but I have super anxiety too, so I understand the paranoia. I just don't want her to miss out on what could be some great years for her because of fear, because I did the same (in an entirely unrelated fashion though)

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Flickerby@lemmy.zip to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org
 

So I have a friend, ACTUAL friend not a "this is me but I don't wanna say situation" who has identified as trans ever since she was like, 13 or 14. She doesn't have the insurance to cover the treatments but that can be dealt with, the bigger issue is that while she really WANTS to start, she's deathly afraid of what it's going to do to her social circles. Which I kinda get, she's in....not a very accepting area. But she feels like she can't starts unless she moves away otherwise she's just going to cause issues for her family, like specific examples she brought up being her dad pulled over and ticketed for random bullshit because of her. It's a small town but not THAT small. I'm not sure what to do or say about it. I've obviously just been encouraging her to do what she wants, when she wants, but I can tell she's getting more and more frustrated with the situation as time goes on and I just thought maybe I'd ask here for advice or thoughts or input or something. Thank you all in advance

Thank you everyone for your help! Definitely going to pass it on. I think I'm going to log out forever now though. I'm really tired to be honest. And everything is just a bit waves hands much. Especially today. You guys were a nice light though <3 Thank you

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 29 points 3 months ago (5 children)

His problem started at the pick up artists videos. Women are just people. Just talk to them like people. So long as you have good hygiene and you can carry a conversation you're 90% above most other men. All of these problems start with these stupid people treating each gender like they're some entirely different species born on a different planet. People are just people.

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

The funny part is I have shitty ass Comcast lol. Wish I had fiber in my area. Comcast is the only option :'(

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 months ago

Thought this was that old video of the guy who splits his wedding pants and his dong just flops out in front of everyone. To be fair it was a fairly impressive dong so nothing to be embarrassed about it.

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I don't open my notifications unless I'm prepared. Which usually means like a week after which works for me quite well.

[–] Flickerby@lemmy.zip 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Same. I'm bored and looking for friends to chat. I dunno how I'd go setting that up though. I was just planning on the single bus with SF lol

I guess I can just make one lol https://discord.gg/Y9vTdUrN

 

So my usual split fiction buddy is in absentia at the moment BUT I am feeling gamey. It's free, and cross play, you just have to download the 70gb or so partner game. Will require voice for the puzzles though

Edit Sorry people, missed today, going to bed I think, but still drop a line if you're interested in the future!

 

The farther you scroll, the more laggy and freezey it gets. Really really quickly (like after 5 minutes of scrolling), I get a "couldn't retrieve posts API error" and it's so laggy it's about .5 fps

 

There was this one mom and pop burger joint that had the simplest, most basic, super greasiest burgers but to this day they were the best burgers I've ever tasted. The place was tucked away in an alley and it was one of those "you have to be a local to even know this exists" places.

Also, having moved from a smaller town to a bigger city, I miss how close everything and everyone was. You wanted to go see someone, or go do something, it was always just a walk away instead of having to deal with all the hullabaloo of traffic and bus lines and yada yada.

 

Sorry if this is the wrong place. I have an LCD TV that got a strange single few inch line of light burn in randomly a few years ago. The thing is, the burn in has....migrated? It's like a good foot and a half lower than where it originally burned in. And it's changed angle. There's a small darker spot where it used to be, even. What's going on? If I give my tv another 10 years will the burn in migrate off screen like it seems to be doing?

Flooded screen with white, looks like this. Top darker spot is where it was at first.

 

Braggadociosness and bravado encouraged

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Happy Halloween! (lemmy.zip)
submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by Flickerby@lemmy.zip to c/Reprieve@lemmy.zip
 

Cheers to everybody watching horror movies. Share your relationship horror stories here. Or just horror stories in general. I can dig some Dracula

 

I'm inebriated and trying to drum up some activity and brotherhood here so I'm taking the easy route out. Also I made this so I can post what I want lol.

Personally one of my favorite games is FFX, for an unconventional reason. My older brother recorded his whole playthrough on VHS for me to watch as a younger one when he was away at college and that really stuck with me as a demonstrable, physical, "this person is your family and cares about you and will always have your back" thing. I mean the game itself is also one of my favorite FFs, but I think that's really why it cements itself in my memory. Family.

 

I have a good one, just popped back into my head and inspired this. We were watching a movie where a wife cheated on her husband and I say "Damn, what a horrible person". And she just loses it, going off on how "that's such a misogynistic thing to say" "how do you know what SHE was going through" etc. I tried to laugh it off because she was hot and it was early in the relationship and I'm stupid but I'll give you one guess why that particular relationship ended lol.

Anyone else have some relationship red flags, major or subtle, that just made you want to go back and slap your past self?

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by Flickerby@lemmy.zip to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org
 

Catchy song. Not sure why link isn't working in the post but here https://youtu.be/XxT0xnTevcg

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submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by Flickerby@lemmy.zip to c/Reprieve@lemmy.zip
 

First off, has been a while, hello to everyone still here. I've had some personal problems lately (I have been curled up in a ball waiting for the world to end) but I'm here. I'd like to say the recent right wing shooting of a right wing figure by a right wing extremist is something we in no way condone (for legal purposes). Killing fascists is something my grandfather fought and died for yes, but...

Anyway. Recently got some what would be disturbing texts from my ex fiance telling me to kill myself about 30-40 times in a row before I blocked the number again. I'm not sure what prompted it. I know she's schizophrenic so probably just "forgot" to take her meds again. She's really not doing well from what I can gather and the fact that I am, pissed her off, still, years after she cheated on me. It's some nice karma, I have to be honest, I derive no small pleasure in knowing the cheating ass is miserable. And I'm scared for my family with all the recent governmental shit. But I have managed to keep the alcohol consumption down a lot so woo

I know this is a dead sub now but I hope if anyone ever needs a place to talk, I hope they'll still think of this. Thank you all for taking the time to read this little update thing.

Also scrolled far enough to see this on my front page! Much love to the people here <3

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